I have been telling Mike that we have to put what we want done with the kids should we die on paper since I was pregnant. Now we have a potential vacation without kids looming. Fingers crossed, we find the money for a honeymoon. We absolutely have a deadline now.
Deadline or not it’s a hard thing to face and write down. It's so important to make these decisions while we're young and healthy. I used to really worry about finding someone who could care for my equally sweet and intelligent, but wildly different children. Now it seems there are more than a few viable options. I worry a lot more about what Mike would do if I passed away. He has always had an amazing support system and I have certainly added to that by bringing my friends and family with me. The problem is he is worse than I am about asking for help. I can't imagine Mike having an easy time on his own with the kids even if they were older.
I also worry about our individual wishes being carried out. We had a death in the family today. The final days were filled with a battle to get him released from the hospital into hospice care because he wanted to die at home. I completely empathize with those wishes. I have held hands with dying relatives in the ICU and it's NOT something I want for my sake or my kid’s.
So, now we'll start wading through the semantics of our wishes for after we're dead. I think if you prepare for it it's less likely to happen. I have seen how much stress leaving no instructions behind can cause and I'd like to at the least make it a little easier on the kids.
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